I wanted to sleep with any and every girl I met even casually, even if I had absolutely no interest in persuiting a relationship with her. But when I did it for the first time, it was not nearly as good as I had expected. When Iwound up not enjoying myself for the minute or two that it lasted, I even wondered if I might be gay.
As the years passed and I had new girlfriends, tried new things, and sex seemed to get better as I got older.
When a girl I was with turned out to be clueless in bed, I suggested watching porn because she only wanted to do it missionary style. When I asked another girlfriend to go down on me because she was on her period, I got us both addicted to oral sex. I started getting a reputation of being “nuts” in bed, so I did not flinch when a girl suggested me sticking a finger up her butt or asked me to cumm in her mouth… I obliged. I did it all with confidence and without fear that I was going to freak the girl out or not enjoy myself.
I try new positions, I love watching it happen in a mirror, I obsess overoral sex and I sext with hot chicks and I do not fully shave, so I feel I am keeping up with the times.
I ask for what I want. Because, to me, sex is fun. While my self-esteem may lack in other the professional and career fields, I am not going to second guess that I am hot shit when I am doing my thinng in bed.
I believe that sex is something free, natural, primal, even animal. You should do it with confidence and without inhibitions.
Keep in mind that love is not always presnet in sex. So, if I am not with someone who is blowing my mind, I am picturing someone who is. And for the few times that I have loved someone so much that no one else entered my mind during sex, I enjoyed that special closeness to the full extent, too.